Dear Moms: It's Okay to Ask for Help – You Deserve It

Dear Moms,

I want to start by saying that you are doing an incredible job. I know how challenging motherhood can be—especially when you're doing it away from family and familiar support systems. As a mom myself, living in Taiwan with two young children and working as a teacher, I understand how overwhelming it can feel at times. It often feels like the needs of everyone else come before your own, and by the end of the day, there’s nothing left for you.

But here’s the thing: It’s okay to ask for help.

I know it can feel like you should be able to do everything on your own. We are often taught to be self-sufficient, to push through, to keep going no matter how tired we are. But the truth is, none of us can do it all alone, and asking for help is not a sign of weakness—it’s a sign of strength.

Living in Taiwan, far from my extended family, I’ve had to find new ways to support myself and my family. And one of the best decisions I’ve made is to allow trusted babysitters to step in when I need a break. Whether it’s to take a nap, enjoy some quiet time with a book, or meet up with friends for a cup of coffee, these moments of self-care help me recharge so I can be the best mom I can be.

I know it can be intimidating to trust someone else with your children, especially in a foreign country where the language and culture may feel unfamiliar. But with the right approach, it’s entirely possible. I’ve found help through local parenting groups, online communities, and trusted friends who have recommended babysitters they trust. It’s all about building a network of support, and you don’t have to do it alone.

Please, don’t feel guilty for needing time for yourself. In fact, taking care of yourself is one of the most loving things you can do for your family. When we take a step back and allow ourselves time to rest, we come back stronger, more energized, and more present for our little ones.

I also want to remind you that asking for help doesn’t make you any less of a mom. You are doing something amazing every single day. You are giving your love, your time, your energy—and it’s okay to need a little extra help in return. You deserve it, and your kids will thrive because of it.

Motherhood is a beautiful journey, but it’s also a tough one. Please know that you are not alone in this. There are many of us out there navigating this path, facing the same challenges, feeling the same exhaustion, and also finding strength in leaning on others.

So, mama, take a deep breath and give yourself permission to ask for help. Whether it’s hiring a babysitter, reaching out to a friend, or simply asking for a moment of quiet, you’ve earned it.

You are doing an amazing job.

With love and support,
Bymom